On April 1, I met Heather, my next-door neighbor at my apartment. Her husband was in Korea with the Army, her marriage was crumbling (allegedly), and we both needed a friend--but there was an undeniable attraction between us.
Her little boy liked me (I couldn't stand him--he was a brat), but he'd invite me to come over and watch TV, play video games or sometimes Heather and I went out to eat--maybe twice in the whole time we knew each other. It was so nice to have a friend just 15 feet away, with an overbite and a lazy eye...nice to get a hug when I left too. Much of my depression stopped. On May 16, I gave Heather a Mother's Day gift basket from Bath&BodyWorks. Her husband paid little attention to her (allegedly) and didn't even visit during his month vacation from Korea, so I thought it might make her day if someone remembered her. She returned the basket, left it hanging on my door knob, and stopped talking to me for six months. After that it was just,"Hi" and "How are you?". I guess we both knew the relationship was too risky. I do remember, about a year later, when she was leaving, we had a long talk about what had happened and parted on good terms. I think perhaps she was right to stop communications, although I wasn't planning on an affair at all--I was very lonely and vulnerable.I struggled at work, doing 12-15 hours a night. Squadron policy didn't allow me to take any leave and wouldn't allow me to be more than a three hours drive outside the local area on my days off so I couldn't do most bicycle races. I'd signed up for the "Assault on Mt. Mitchell", an extremely hard ride of over 100 miles of climbs that ended atop the highest point east of the Rockies, Mt. Mitchell at 6711 feet. It was also extremely difficult to gain entry into. Shortly after I pulled that off, my boss told me I couldn't go, and I lost about $100 from that. I was never able to get into that race again. I kept asking him to see this 'regulation' but he could not produce it, blowing it off as not very important.